How my lecturer left me with twin pregnancy to ‘japa’
A Nigerian woman has come forward with an account of how her boyfriend, a lecturer at Auchi Polytechnic in Edo State, abandoned her with a twin pregnancy after securing his visa to the UK.
The yet-to-be-identified woman, who shared her story on Saturday via X under the handle #dat_edogirl, revealed the painful details of her ordeal.
In a series of posts, she recounted how she met the lecturer in mid-2019 and fell deeply in love, believing they had a future together.
“He told me about his plans to travel outside the country where his elder brother was,” she said, adding that when they met, he expressed his dissatisfaction with his lecturing job at Auchi Polytechnic, saying he was seeking greener pastures abroad.
By 2022, the lecturer informed her that his visa had been approved, and while she was initially thrilled for him, the joy quickly turned to sorrow when she discovered she was pregnant.
“When I told him about the pregnancy, he said he wouldn’t advise me to keep it because he was traveling and wasn’t ready to be a father,” she recounted.
Despite the potential risks to her life, he pushed her to terminate the pregnancy, even suggesting the use of pills.
“I just told him I wasn’t ready to lose my life,” she added.
Unknown to her at the time, she was carrying twins. Throughout her difficult pregnancy, the lecturer completely cut off contact.
“This guy never called, even once, or replied to my WhatsApp messages,” she said, adding that her nine-month journey was filled with sickness, and she was frequently hospitalised.
The twins were eventually born through a difficult Caesarean section, with one of the babies placed on oxygen due to complications. Even after sharing the news of the birth, the father remained unresponsive.
“I did a video with my phone and sent it on WhatsApp to Kola, still he didn’t reply,” she said.
The financial strain soon became overwhelming as her family struggled to pay the hospital bills.
“My mum was running helter-skelter just to source funds,” she said, with the final bill amounting to 233,000 Naira.
A Nigerian woman has come forward with an account of how her boyfriend, a lecturer at Auchi Polytechnic in Edo State, abandoned her with a twin pregnancy after securing his visa to the UK.
The yet-to-be-identified woman, who shared her story on Saturday via X under the handle #dat_edogirl, revealed the painful details of her ordeal.
In a series of posts, she recounted how she met the lecturer in mid-2019 and fell deeply in love, believing they had a future together.
“He told me about his plans to travel outside the country where his elder brother was,” she said, adding that when they met, he expressed his dissatisfaction with his lecturing job at Auchi Polytechnic, saying he was seeking greener pastures abroad.
By 2022, the lecturer informed her that his visa had been approved, and while she was initially thrilled for him, the joy quickly turned to sorrow when she discovered she was pregnant.
“When I told him about the pregnancy, he said he wouldn’t advise me to keep it because he was traveling and wasn’t ready to be a father,” she recounted.
Despite the potential risks to her life, he pushed her to terminate the pregnancy, even suggesting the use of pills.
“I just told him I wasn’t ready to lose my life,” she added.
Unknown to her at the time, she was carrying twins. Throughout her difficult pregnancy, the lecturer completely cut off contact.
“This guy never called, even once, or replied to my WhatsApp messages,” she said, adding that her nine-month journey was filled with sickness, and she was frequently hospitalised.
The twins were eventually born through a difficult Caesarean section, with one of the babies placed on oxygen due to complications. Even after sharing the news of the birth, the father remained unresponsive.
“I did a video with my phone and sent it on WhatsApp to Kola, still he didn’t reply,” she said.
The financial strain soon became overwhelming as her family struggled to pay the hospital bills.
“My mum was running helter-skelter just to source funds,” she said, with the final bill amounting to 233,000 Naira.
After being discharged, she continued to care for the children alone.
“I named my children myself, did everything myself; he didn’t care or show interest,” she lamented.
Reaching out to his family also proved fruitless, as his brother in Nigeria blocked her after promising to speak with him.
The situation worsened when she travelled to Ondo State to confront her father’s family. She borrowed money from a loan app to make the journey with her mother and children.
Upon arrival, the lecturer’s brother intercepted them at the gate of Adeyemi College of Education and took them elsewhere to avoid creating a scene. When they eventually spoke with the father, he refused to accept responsibility.
“He insulted me and my family to the extent I started crying,” she said, devastated by the verbal abuse.
She blocked his number and finally decided to share her story publicly, appealing for help.
“Please if you know his family in Ondo kindly help me reach out to them. The economy is hard, feeding, clothing, and the kids need to go to school,” she said.
She added, “I am not interested in marrying Kola or having any relationship with him… I just want my kids taken care of.”
After being discharged, she continued to care for the children alone.
“I named my children myself, did everything myself; he didn’t care or show interest,” she lamented.
Reaching out to his family also proved fruitless, as his brother in Nigeria blocked her after promising to speak with him.
The situation worsened when she travelled to Ondo State to confront her father’s family. She borrowed money from a loan app to make the journey with her mother and children.
Upon arrival, the lecturer’s brother intercepted them at the gate of Adeyemi College of Education and took them elsewhere to avoid creating a scene. When they eventually spoke with the father, he refused to accept responsibility.
“He insulted me and my family to the extent I started crying,” she said, devastated by the verbal abuse.
She blocked his number and finally decided to share her story publicly, appealing for help.
“Please if you know his family in Ondo kindly help me reach out to them. The economy is hard, feeding, clothing, and the kids need to go to school,” she said.
She added, “I am not interested in marrying Kola or having any relationship with him… I just want my kids taken care of.”
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